Seeing requires no effort because your nature is seeing, is being stillness.
Love has been defined as giving someone that which they need most, even when they deserve it least. Being in love is active, not reactive, and requires a constant commitment toward your partner, even when they're annoying you. It's a tall order - but the passport to a rich life together. Don't let inessentials distract you from the loving path.
If embarrassed, recognize that it was your own ego that caused your embarrassment, rather than the situation itself. Notice how humor arises from the difference between your pretensions and your performance. Laugh at the part of your ego that was wounded by the experience. Try to see this aspect of your ego for what it is. Then, gently let it go.
Ask yourself whether you really need this item. How much of your hard-earned money gets thrown away on the temporary pleasure of buying something that immediately becomes assimilated into your ever-growing collection of stuff? Do you work just to have more stuff?
Set the timer for a silent meditation that starts and ends with bells.